What to do???
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I'm turning 21 today and I'm feeling like I should come out to my family. Its something that I've been wanting to do but there's always something that keeps me back. There's reasons why I haven't came out yet and I've let them all get to me. Now I know its even harder to come out to a latin family, you know with all the machismo BS, and to top it all off my dad is very religious. My brother and I have even argued about gay rights, and even then I didn't have the guts to tell him. Now my twin sister on the other hand is starting to become more ok with homosexuality and now even has a friend that just came out, but obviously still doesn't know about me... So if anyone reads this I really need some advice,what should I do???
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UMM HI CISCO
First i want to say you are very hot and sexy. =-)
okay i want to come out but i feel like am to young i feell its the time but like some people tell me to wait a little till am a little older what do u think?
I , too, need your advice
Cisco, I live in a very small town in the south. I know noone who is gay. I'm afraid to let anyone know because it could hurt me ,physically. The people in this town are VERY predudice and I have seen what they have done to people like me in the past My family is very well known around town and are very respected. I'm the youngest and smallest boy out of 11 so I know what would happen if I came out. My family are so against it that they would probably loss it on me. I am not a child .I'm 41. I know you probably think me stupid but I have been made to feel like a baby my whole life. I have grown nephews who treat me that way. I don't know what to do. I have little $ and no means of transport. I just want to live my life as i am. Been hiding in the dark for 25 years . I have seen what these redneck fuckers do to "Faggots" if one should happen to come to town. I am 5'0 tall and weigh 120 pds I don't think I stand a chance against these assholes around here. Cisco, I value your opinion and I hope you can help me. Thanks, Shorty
I , too, need your advice
Cisco, I live in a very small town in the south. I know noone who is gay. I'm afraid to let anyone know because it could hurt me ,physically. The people in this town are VERY predudice and I have seen what they have done to people like me in the past My family is very well known around town and are very respected. I'm the youngest and smallest boy out of 11 so I know what would happen if I came out. My family are so against it that they would probably loss it on me. I am not a child .I'm 41. I know you probably think me stupid but I have been made to feel like a baby my whole life. I have grown nephews who treat me that way. I don't know what to do. I have little $ and no means of transport. I just want to live my life as i am. Been hiding in the dark for 25 years . I have seen what these redneck fuckers do to "Faggots" if one should happen to come to town. I am 5'0 tall and weigh 120 pds I don't think I stand a chance against these assholes around here. Cisco, I value your opinion and I hope you can help me. Thanks, Shorty
Coming out at 21
Tony,
Whats good man. Thanks for the post. Happy birthday to you by the way.
First, I want to let you know you are not alone in the coming out process. We all go through it. It is easier for some and harder for others. Latino families especially can have major issues with the whole gay thing, especially if they are religious.
What I would suggest you do is first evaluate your situation before you come out. Sadly, many gay Latino/Black youth are disowned by their families once they come out. Make sure you are in a position that you can stand on your own two feet and able to face worse case scenario. Make sure you have a good job, car and everything you need in case your family takes it hard.
Also, make sure you have a good support system of friends that will be there for you when the shit hits the fan.
Ultimately, you have to live your life for you and no one else. Life is to short to live it a big lie. You will find your way, we all do so keep positive and be proud of who you are. Usually, families come around eventually, just make sure you can take care of yourself before you drop the bomb on them.
Let me know how it goes, papa! Best of luck to you.
CISCO
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Finally!!!
Hey, thanks a lot man!!! I finally decided to go through with it,and come out to my twin sister!!! There was an awkward moment of silence at first, then she just looked at me and smiled and we both started balling our eyes out!!! She said,"you're going to break a lot of girls hearts"!lol Its a start, I just hope everyone else takes it the same way. You're so right, I do have to live my life for me and not for anyone else.
Now, I'm thinking about moving out of oklahoma(blah) to california. I'm not running away from anyone or anything. I'm just trying to find the real me and not the me that everyone knows. I'm going over for summer break to "explore" and hopefully find a college to transfer to. I'm desperate for a new start!lol do you think I'm rushing things, or should I pace myself?
California......
Come to California, if that is what you wish to do. I did after coming out in Michigan. I had to get away and start over too. I am so glad I did. You must make your own choice......
Welcome to Califorina .........Peace.
Glen